Welcome to the world, Easton Grey. I love you so much already.
Gonna get my baby snuggles on tomorrow when I visit momma, daddy, and baby. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
1st day of this school year
One kid told me his dad died in his sleep from a drug overdose.
One kid (who’s new to the school) told me he moves every year, and that he wishes he could stay at one school and not move again.
One kid came with no supplies, not even a backpack. We had backpacks stocked with supplies ready for kids like him. The smile on his face when he came back in my room with that backpack absolutely broke my heart.
These kids go through more than they should ever have to.
This. For so many the first day can be the first light of hope in a while.
Way too many parents need to learn the difference between “a child being disrespectful” and “a human person expressing an opinion that differs from theirs”
my mom had a nice technique for this. when i’d give her sass, she’d say, “i don’t speak rude, what’s that in polite-person-ese?”
basically, she’d encourage me to rephrase my opinion without the attitude. so “UGH, you NEVER let me do ANYTHING!” would (often after quite a bit of bitching and grumbling) turn into “it feels like every time i have a fun idea, you say no, and i just end up sitting around the house.”
and at that point we could troubleshoot like civilized people. she could explain that she didn’t want me to go to jimmy’s sleepover because jimmy’s dad creeps her out, and i could suggest maybe i could have andy over instead, and she could say sure, why not call peter and stacy and brianna and have your own party, i’ll pop some popcorn and rent a movie, and i could add what if we put up tents in the back yard and have a bonfire and roast marshmallows, and she could laugh and say don’t push it.
I really like this technique because it addresses the OPs comment but recognizes that the two can coexist. The problem is often the child is expressing their opinion in a rude or disrespectful way. And as humans we automatically become adverse to opinions we feel are aggressive toward us.
This is good parenting.